In a world that constantly demands more from us, it is easy to lose sight of our own needs. We often put others first, thinking that selflessness is the key to happiness and success. However, neglecting yourself can lead to burnout, stress and a lack of fulfillment. Prioritizing yourself is not about being selfish. Instead, it is about recognizing your worth and ensuring you are physically, emotionally and mentally nourished. By setting boundaries, saying no when necessary and making time for what fuels you, you can show up as your best self for others. When you prioritize your own well-being, you not only enhance your life but also improve your ability to support those around you. Here are some tips on how to say ‘no’ and to put yourself first.
- Set clear boundaries
Creating boundaries is important as it enables you to say ‘no’ when needed. These boundaries are important as they protect your time, energy and well-being from individuals that don’t want to lift you up. Having these conversations early on when meeting new people is extremely helpful when wanting to get close. Just remember, do not feel guilty for saying ‘no’ to things that drain you or do not align with your priorities.
- Schedule ‘me’ time
Similar to how you would schedule a meeting or an appointment on your Google Calendar, make sure you book some time in your schedule for yourself. First of all, this is not selfish as you deserve to have some time to yourself. Whether that be a few minutes of quiet time before getting out of bed in the morning, a quick workout or simply reading a book, ‘me’ time is meant to be for you. So take this opportunity to relax and unwind. During this time, it is okay to decline plans from others, as this time is strictly meant for you.
- Learn to delegate
Do not push yourself to do everything all the time. Putting too much on your plate can cause you an unhealthy amount of stress, which can lead to worser mental and physical symptoms. It is 100% okay to ask for help from others. Your friends and family are here to support you, so ask them for help. Whether this be at work or at home, asking for help is not shameful. Let others contribute and do not overburden yourself with unnecessary responsibilities.
- Practice Self Care
Try to make self care a regular part of your routine. This can include anything from journaling to putting on a facemask. If you do not have a self care routine, it may be time to put one together. Practicing self care can be super beneficial for your health, as it can reduce your stress and make you feel better.
- Avoid people pleasing
Stop trying to please people at the expense of your happiness. It is about time that you put yourself first. It is completely okay to help people out once in a while, but try to set boundaries to keep yourself happy. Running around and pleasing others all the time will lead to extreme amounts of burnout. You cannot be everything to everyone. Focus on what aligns with your goals and values instead of stretching yourself out too thin.
I hope these tips help with finding ways to prioritize yourself. Remember that you always come first. Take care of yourself and make sure that you have enough willpower to get through the day!
