First dates can be very exciting, but also very nervous. And, that’s totally okay. It’s normal to feel nervous on a first date, especially if you don’t know the person very well. However, the best thing that you can do is properly prepare. That way, you will feel more comfortable and confident! Down below, I’ve listed some helpful tips that can help guide you through a first date!
- Share this moment with your friends and family
This is such an exciting time, so why not brag about it to your friends and family! Sometimes, by doing so, you will feel so much better about the first date and even have insight into how to prepare for it. Friends can come in handy, especially when they give you opinions and pointers on what to wear and what to say. Now, you don’t have to follow their advice to a tea, but having a strong support network of friends and family can help you combat your nervousness and put yourself out there when meeting someone new.
- Think about engaging and thoughtful questions
The talking won’t happen by itself, so make sure you are prepared to ask some engaging and thoughtful questions during the date. This is to ensure that both people are actively engaged in the conversation and you’ll have even more to talk about other than your favorite color or your hobbies. Asking these questions can make the conversation flow better and see more in tune to the moment.
- Talk but also listen
Remember, you can always talk on the first date, but make sure you are also allowing your date to talk as well. One sided conversations are never fun and it can get very frustrating when only one person is talking the entire time. With that being said, make sure you are listening to what the other person has to say. It’s totally okay to have a lot to say, but make sure the other person feels equally included and listened to.
- Don’t get too personal
While it’s okay to get to know someone on a deeper level, the first date is not a good time to do that. You are just getting to know someone, and sometimes it can come off very strong when you are bringing up things that are too personal. If you are unsure what qualifies as personal, just don’t bring it up. Remember, you are there to have a good time, not trauma dump and scare your first date away.
- Don’t bring up sore subjects
Another thing to not bring up during first dates are sore subjects. I like to classify sore subjects as things such as traumas, previous relationships, politics, etc. These are fine to talk about in general, but not on a first date. Let this time be uplifting and positive, free from potential topics that can bring the energy down. There will always be time to talk about these subjects in the future, but for the first date, keep the conversations positive and uplifting.
I hope these tips help in planning for your first date! Remember, it’s totally okay to be nervous, but you’ve got this! This will sound very corny, but be yourself. At the end of the day, you want to be in a potential relationship with someone who loves you for you!
